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Read The Parenting Books, But Do It Your Way Anyway

Parenting books

This morning I walked past our bookcase and noticed all the parenting books I’ve bought over the last couple of years. From trying for a baby to how to care for them when they arrive, I’ve amassed 12 of these ‘must-read’ books. Surprisingly, despite loving to plan and research my everyday life, I had no desire to buy a pile of parenting books before rocket man was born. But towards the end of my pregnancy I caved and bought some. I was lack-lustre...

Today I Wasn’t Enough, But That’s OK

Its a bad day not a bad life

Today was one of those days. One of those, ‘I’m not cut out for this’ days. Rocket man just wasn’t feeling it and as his mum and safe place, he felt very OK with letting me know. At 15 months old communication takes the form of behaviour, so we’ve had screaming, food throwing, collapsing on the floor in hysterics and complete displeasure in pretty much everything. When I look back and put it into words it all sounds a bit...

Stay-At-Home Mums Deserve A Weekend Too

Weekend

I’m at the beginning of my stay-at-home mum adventure, but one thing is for sure – I look forward to the weekend. Recently I read a forum conversation where someone commented to a stay-at-home mum, ‘Why are you so excited for the weekend? It must always be like a weekend for you.’ Umm, pardon, what?! I nearly choked on my martini that is required most evenings, in order to recover from the trauma of a full day with a toddler. Here we go...

My Cat Knew I Was Pregnant Before I Did!

Purdy cat on bench

I know it sounds loopy, but I genuinely believe our cat Purdy could sense I was pregnant before I’d even taken the test. At the time I frantically Googled the phenomena and found several articles concluding that this was indeed possible. In fact, it is said that cats (and other animals) can detect illness too. Since my little rocket man has speedily crawled all over the house, Purdy has become a target for his over-enthusiastic attention. She has been so...

Get Organised – Tips to Make Every Day Easier

Tidy Cupboard

When I was pregnant and talking to friends about life with children, one of them said, ‘It all comes down to organisation and planning. If you get organised, things will be a lot easier.’ This stuck with me and although I’m naturally an organised person, the everyday challenges of motherhoodery have made me up my game. I’m by no means perfect and my life feels more chaotic now than it ever has done, but doing the things on this list help me stay...

Surviving The Mayhem of Life With A Little One

Messy Eater

I’m a recovering neat freak. On good days I deftly wander past wooden blocks invading windowsills, toy cars rammed into my washing basket and puzzle pieces strewn across the floor. These are the days I feel I’m winning as a parent. ‘This is what it’s all about,’ I tell myself. ‘Let them be little,’ rings in my ears. But on bad days I want to run for the hills, screaming ‘Give me my house back!’. I like things neat and tidy (for ideas on...

I Still Wear Make-Up Every Day

Make-up laid out

This morning I put my make-up on as usual. I was rushing around, when I suddenly stopped for a second to think about why I wear make-up every single day. I’ve worn it since I was 15 years old. Compared to today’s standards, that’s quite late to commence painting my face. I didn’t start because of any great urge to be pretty or to appeal to the opposite sex,  it was just to make me feel more confident. I remember marching into Boots...

My Mum Identity – What Do I Call Myself Now?

My hands & Tutti's feet in the shape of a heart

Before I was made redundant (for more on this see ‘Becoming a Stay-at-Home Mum’) I always felt proud when people asked ‘What do you do?’. The answer has varied over the years, but includes PR & Communications, Marketing and Multi-Brand Manager. By the time I was taking maternity leave I had a lot of responsibility and loved being accountable for a marketing team. However, what I didn’t realise until two days after I no longer had a job, was just how...

Baby Group Novice? Here are 5 Tips for Success

Me and H at baby group

Has ‘join a local baby & toddler group’ been on your ever-growing to-do list for a while? Are you unsure if it’s your kind of thing? Don’t worry. I’ve been there too. Oh how I remember pre-baby me declaring, ‘You’ll never catch me sitting cross-legged in a circle, clapping my hands and shaking a tambourine.’ Ha, how very naïve I was. Baby groups sounded like something other mums went to. The mums I knew I’d never replicate. The mums that...

Becoming A Stay-At-Home Mum

Me & Tutti on the beach

Years ago I heard the saying, ‘With brave wings she flies’ and have since quoted it to friends and colleagues. But today, as I enter the new world of being a stay-at-home mum, I say it to myself. Redundancy during my maternity leave has made me an accidental stay-at-home mum. Having followed the traditional; school, uni, career, marriage, baby route, it’s actually quite liberating to go off-piste. To deviate from the expected and potentially change the course of my life. But...