I Still Wear Make-Up Every Day

August 14, 2016

Make-up laid out

This morning I put my make-up on as usual. I was rushing around, when I suddenly stopped for a second to think about why I wear make-up every single day.

I’ve worn it since I was 15 years old. Compared to today’s standards, that’s quite late to commence painting my face. I didn’t start because of any great urge to be pretty or to appeal to the opposite sex,  it was just to make me feel more confident.

I remember marching into Boots with a short-list of must-haves (procured from Cosmo magazine obviously) and quick-walking home to try them all out. Clumsily applying foundation, brushing on far too much blush and committing the cardinal sin of not plucking my eyebrows before using the taupe-coloured pencil. Actually it would be a couple of years before said eyebrows were introduced to tweezers. I know, I’m building up a beautiful picture…

Twenty years and one baby later I can count on one, well, maybe two hands, the number of times I’ve gone sans make-up. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have an intricate routine. I don’t watch YouTube videos on the latest looks (I should, I’m stuck in mid-90’s mode) and I don’t constantly re-apply throughout the day. However, every morning I do put make-up on. Hubster often questions why I’m doing it, especially if we’re not even exiting the house. My answer…just because.

READY TO TAKE ON THE DAY

So why do I like to wear make-up? Quite simply, it makes me feel good. It gives me a little boost.

I’ve never been body confident. Amongst other things, I’ve always had fine hair that frizzes at the merest hint of moisture and let’s just say I’m well blessed in other areas, which might sound like a good thing, but has generally been a pain in my arse. Who knows whether ‘putting on my face’ makes me look better than when I’m au naturalle.

The point is, I feel better. Stronger. Ready to take on the day.

And now I’m a mum, I still have a make-up routine, even if it is abbreviated from my pre-baby days. After 24 hours on the maternity ward, I whacked on some powder and curled my eyelashes (I didn’t bother with the hair straighteners I’d packed though)! I think it was my way of gaining control. Despite planning for 9 months, becoming a mum is the most overwhelming, slap-you-round-the-face experience. Spending a few minutes looking in a mirror, doing what I’d done for almost twenty years, made me feel normal again.

Even during those first 100 days of hell with a newborn, I managed a shower and a bit of make-up most days (thanks to Hubster who took baby duties in his stride). Not getting dressed and sporting a naked face, made me feel lack-lustre. At a time when hormones were raging, I was happy to do anything that kept me feeling human.

Me Checking my make-up on my wedding day
Giving myself the once-over on our big day
GET UP, DRESS UP, MAKE UP

Now I could get into some deep discussion on how the media and society has created an image of beauty which I’m trying to replicate, blah, blah, blah. And I’m sure looking at sexy film stars and glamorous models has influenced me along the way. But the fact is I’ve never really been a girly girl. I don’t take much notice of the latest diet and I’m not one for being pampered. I don’t think I’ve ever consciously adhered to a hair or fashion trend. Mainly because I’ve got shit hair and my figure was not designed for fashion. I still haven’t recovered from when I tried to squeeze my non-undernourished body into a shirt dress…ugh.

I wear make-up because it helps my skin look a bit smoother, my complexion a bit brighter and my lashes a bit longer. Note I say ‘a bit.’ I don’t think for a second that my slapdash approach is creating a knockout beauty. But it makes me feel comfortable in my own skin and with all the crap we have to deal with, that’s no bad thing.

I recently read a comments thread where women were vile to a writer who said she spent time getting ready every morning. They accused her of neglecting her children, being vain and thinking too much of herself.

For goodness sake…a) When did we all become such judgemental, unsupportive dipsticks and b) When did taking a few minutes for yourself become an offence?

I can’t stand sancti-mummys who think having children means giving up every ounce of yourself. That if you’re not walking around unshaven, wearing last weeks clothes and wreaking of vomit, you’re clearly not meant to be a mother…arggggh.

I’m with my little rocket man 24/7. I change him, dress him, feed him, play with him, help him, love him, cuddle him, bath him… every day. No neglect going on here people.

Hubster always says how lovely I look in my natural state, but like so many women, I never believe him. Ironically, whenever I see ladies without make-up, I often think how beautiful they look. So if you’re not a make-up wearer, I take my proverbial hat off to you.

Maybe I need to join a group? ‘Hi, I’m Kirsty and I’m a make-upholic.’

Or maybe not. Maybe I’m just a normal woman, doing what it takes to win each day.

What do you do every day that makes you feel good?

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20 Comments

  1. Reply

    Ali Duke

    I used to wear make up everyday, but since having depression for the last 3 years I have worn it less and less. I am now coming through it and want to get back into wearing it again, but I feel like I have forgotten what to do lol. I have tons of make up, I need to put it to use. And you are right, making yourself look nice does not mean you are being neglectful.
    #fortheloveofBLOG

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      Kirsty

      I say go girl! Maybe just start with a bit of powder and mascara and build it up, so it’s not such a big change. I’m not a huge lippy person, but some people always feel dressed is they’ve got their favourite lipstick on. Maybe choose your two favourite things to wear and go for it. If it lifts your mood and brightens your day, it can only be a good thing. x

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    justsayingmum

    Oh I’m so with you – I adore make-up and it makes me feel ready to take on the day – that and a strong coffee! Glad I’m not the only one! #fortheloveofBLOG

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      Kirsty

      Absolutely! And hallelujah to all the coffee 🙌🏻 x

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    Themotherhub

    Sancti-mummys ! Love it. I don’t wear it every day but I do feel better when I do. I suppose I feel slightly uncomfortable about where that comes from.. But I’m one of those people who if I don’t wear make up people ask if I’m sick or tired – no ! This is just my face 😀 #fortheloveofblog

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      Kirsty

      Ha, people can be a delight can’t they?! We’ve got enough stuff to beat ourselves up about, so I don’t pay too much attention to the whys and wherefores of wearing make-up. Just whack it on my face! x

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    The Pramshed

    I wear make-up everyday too, even if it’s a day when I’m home, as you never know what might happen. I really don’t feel confident not wearing any, and see myself as looking rough when I don’t. Like today, no make-up following severe hangover after being at my brother’s wedding yesterday. I think I was too hungover not to care. I really should have more confidence not to wear any. Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG, and my apologies for the late comment. Claire x

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      Kirsty

      Exactly – you never know who might call round! Whatever gets you through the day eh (apart from when you’re hungover – then anything goes)! x

  5. Reply

    kristin mccarthy

    So true. This was the exact advice a seasoned mom gave me when I had my first child. Even if it hurts, even if you do not qant to…get dressed, brush your hair and put on some make up.

    1. Reply

      Kirsty

      Absolutely Kristin! It does make you feel more human and helps you face the day. x

  6. Reply

    Jaki

    I am you!
    I can’t leave the house without it. There are many mornings I do stand in front of the mirror thinking ‘I wish I didn’t have to do this!’, & the irony of it is, I don’t HAVE to at all. I choose to. Because like you, I don’t feel me without it. That person in the mirror without make up isn’t me. I have worn it for so long that the only person I’m comfortable one is the made up one. I’m well aware that that sounds awful, but it’s the truth. If I am staying at home and there is a guarantee I’m not going anywhere then I will give myself a day off, but that isn’t often. When I had my baby I chose to have a shower and feel human over sleeping when the baby slept and I know if I did it all again I would be the same. It’s not vanity. It’s confidence. And if a bit of make up and nice hair makes us feel better, no one should have a problem with that. #sharingtheBLOGlove

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      Kirsty

      Amen to that! I never ‘slept when the baby slept’ – it was my time to get stuff done and like you say, have a shower. I know exactly what you mean. When I’m not wearing make-up I just don’t feel quite as on top of things, not quite as springy. Of all the things we could be doing to get our little kicks, taking time to put on a bit of make-up really is OK! x

  7. Reply

    Joanne Mallon

    Like you I put on make up every day. I’m very pale, so without it I just look ill and tired. Plus it’s fun! Nobody should ever have to apologise for taking care of themselves – this is how we model good self esteem and self care for our children. #SharingtheBlogLove

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      Kirsty

      That’s a great point Joanne – it is self-care and that’s what gets people through the day. x

  8. Reply

    Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons

    I wore makeup every day religiously until I flared up with eczema about 5 years ago which meant I had to go completely makeup free for a long time. It really got me down – the eczema was on my face, and coupled with not being able to apply anything to conceal it, I really missed putting on my makeup. I certainly use less now than I used to, and I do have the odd day now where I go makeup free, but I love the daily ritual of putting it on, enjoying new products, and just seeing the version of myself that I have in my head smiling back at me in the mirror. Thanks so much for joining us again at #SharingtheBlogLove

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      Kirsty

      Gosh Katy that must have been really tough. I imagine going from wearing nothing to a little but must feel such a joy 😊 x

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    Laura - dear bear and beany

    I never used to wear make up during the day, it was something I only wore on a nights out or special occasions. But, as I got older I felt like I needed to cover up the tired eyes and my washed out skin. Since then I wear it every day, not much but enough to make me feel a bit better about myself. Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

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      Kirsty

      Some days I wish I didn’t wear make-up every day, but that bottle of foundation always calls me in the end! x

  10. Reply

    Emma T

    I’m with you on this. Similarly I don’t wear much (and it’s usually sweated off by lunchtime. And like you i also showered and put make up on after having N. It’s what makes me feel normal, it’s like brushing my teeth, but just a touch of concealer, touch eclat, foundation and mascara. #sharingthebloglove

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      Kirsty

      Absolutely – touch eclat saves my life everyday!! x

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